Archive for June, 2012

Empty Bench

Tuesday, June 19th, 2012

“Remember me and smile, for it’s better to forget than remember me and cry.” ~ unknown

I posted a shorter version of this poem on Facebook last year near Mom’s birthday, but it never made its way to the Madness blog. Since a full year has now come full circle, and I’m taking today off to visit this seaside bench once again, I figured it’s a good time to make this a live one.

Scusa me amicas and amicos, I certainly am light years behind the likes of Emily Dickinson.


We’d stop and sit for a chat
Our laughter filling the salty air

A stroll on the boards
A slice, a cone, a coke
“Watch those $@#& seagulls!”
Always a chuckle at one of your jokes

Seaside moments to treasure
Our own bit of heaven on earth
For some, a bond so rare
A friendship mom her daughter shared

Today my tears flowed without your presence
I see only our blue bench…empty
Just waiting for you to come and join me there

ITALIAN LESSON: missing (in the absence of) = mancando — “I’m missing you” = “Mi stai mancando”


Jeez, how I miss you, our belly laughs, shopping sprees, our funny ‘what-would-you-rather-have’ questions and the silliness we enjoyed every time we spent those precious moments together. I especially miss reading you my madness writing about all the kooky things we experienced as a family (and the variety of sixteen foster kids, each with their own story).

Even though some of these stories may seem wacked-out to some, I’d go back and enjoy every insane minute again.

~ Me

Happy as a …

Saturday, June 2nd, 2012

“Don’t touch that squirrel’s clams! It’ll make him crazy!
~ Willy Wonka (if he were talking about mollusks)


ITALIAN LESSON: clam = vongola

Just a random thought: I just uttered the words “happy as a clam” and then wondered, why are clams so damn happy anyway?

Perhaps it’s because they enjoy living in the deep blue sea and cavorting with mermaids. It appears they have a no-stress attitude, like “ya eat me, ya eat me” kind of mentality (if they even have a brain), and I’m sure they’re good friends with SpongeBob and his crew.

Hey, when you can yell “EAT IT RAW!!!” to someone and stand behind the statement 100%, that’s pretty funny to me.


Consider this a WIKI of sorts — here’s what I dug up on clams: It’s been suggested that open clams give the appearance of smiling, but the derivation is more likely to come from the fuller version of the phrase, “happy as a clam at high tide,” since high tide is when clams are free from predators.

The phrase originated in the north-eastern states of the USA in the early 19th century. The earliest citation is from a frontier memoir called “The Harpe’s Head – A Legend of Kentucky” c. 1833.

So, who or what in your life makes you feel “happy as a clam”? Don’t worry, I won’t make you say it!

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