“Always get married early in the morning. That way, if it doesn’t work out, you haven’t wasted a whole day.” ~ Mickey Rooney
In the summer of ‘58 Mom turned eighteen, and Nan was wondering when her pretty daughter would marry and start a family. Nan was concerned that her eldest might end up a old, shriveled-up unhappy spinster (back then, you were deemed a spinster if you weren’t hitched by the ripe old age of twenty — and that was even pushing it. Ridiculous, huh?)
In May of 1959, my Aunt Lo introduced her unattached Italian friend, Dominic, to my mom. Mom was a head turner, with her perfect hourglass figure, which was just right for wearing those fashionable Jackie Kennedy-esque dresses and those little vogue hats with her red tresses twirling out from under. Needless to say, he was smitten.
Second generation Dominic stood about 5’10’ had thick wavy black locks, styled into a little pompadour in the front (very stylish at the time). Dom, “Sonny” as some of his friends and his sister Rosie called him, had a fresh anisette aroma about him and always a warm twinkle in his dark brown eyes .
Life in his household revolved around cooking and eating, cooking and eating, and cooking and eating. Mamma Romano cooked day and night – I don’t know if she ever left the kitchen. She was always there, donning her spaghetti sauce stained, smelly worn-out apron. If she wasn’t preparing breakfast, lunch or dinner, she was making anisette cookies, picking fresh figs from their tree or squeezing ripe tomatoes into sauce. Dad’s parents were straight off the boat from the motherland: Lucia from Sicily, and Joseph from Naples.
Dom had a decent job, a stylish car and a bit of that Italian mystique. Almost thirty with a car and a job, he was quite the eligible bachelor — a total catch. A young Margaret accepted his request for a date, and when he arrived at her house looking so chic in his chinos and leather and wool sweater, he blurted out upon meeting my grandparents “I’m going to marry your daughter”. Wow, a man with confidence!
(Italian Lesson: what’s your name? = come ti chiami?)
Dominic and Margaret were married December of that same year. My Dad’s mother wasn’t too thrilled with the idea of this half-Italian bride. She had planned to ship over a Sicilian village girl to marry her youngest little Sonny, not some Americanized redhead. Much more to tell about this later on.
The best is that Mom tells me she said yes to dad’s proposal of marriage – get this – mainly because he had a good Italian last name, and she just HAD to have an Italian name ending with a vowel. Good pick, ma — because I really enjoyed my Italian last name all of these years, too!
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